Holy shit. This is amazing.
- Albert Memmi, The Impossible Life of Frantz Fanon (via gaanjibo)
- Anthony Bourdain in Jerusalem (via kateoplis)
“Our lives move deeper and slower—as if they are taking on weight. It’s good weight, most of it, but it alarms us, I think, at the way it feels like that added weight tries to sink us. I think it alarms Martha a lot.
“It’s like sinking through snow up to your ankles, or deeper. It’s like not being sure, one day, that the ice will hold you—when every day before, it has. It may be my imagination, but it seems like Martha doesn’t want to talk about this—that this accrual of weight is happening. As if she believes that any day now—tomorrow, for instance—things will begin to get lighter and freer again—even if she would admit to this weight-gathering occurring in the first place.
“I know she can feel it. She says all things are cyclic, and they are, but this thing—us—is somehow different.
“The things outside of us seem never to change, beyond the constancy of the four season—birth, life, death, rebirth—but I’m convinced that our lives are different, just a bit above or below these constant cycles. As if we are on some march through the woods toward those final cycles, toward some final, newer place.
“But Martha won’t hear any of this kind of talk. She says it’s all the same. She says nothing’s changing. And still: depsite the endlessness of the days, and the seeming strength of our continuity, there are fractures and gaps, where whole chunks of time will fall away—as if calving away from the whole, too weak to stay fastened to the core. Things that were assumed to be lock-solid, rock-sure, fall away, leaving only loss, emtpiness and confusion.
“And we start anew.”
Let’s call this: tending towards entropy
[Photo: July 4, 2013. Fireworks over the Potomac. Washington, DC]
Looking back on five years of marriage in California
The Times profiled Paul Waters and Kevin Voecks back in 2008, when they were among the first wave of same-sex couples to be married in California.
Five years later, with Proposition 8 coming to an end after the Supreme Court’s decision yesterday, photo editor Jeremiah Bogert revisited the still-married couple to see how their relationship has evolved, and their thoughts on the major shifts in public opinion over gay marriage since their own nuptials.
Voecks: I’m stunned at the rapidity of the change. Not just statewide, but nationally and internationally. After working for gay rights since the ’70s when decades would go by with little or no movement, we now see changes within months.
Waters: I’m delighted to see the change. I also know with absolute certainty that the current level of support is not the end point but merely a milestone along the path toward near universal support.
And how’s the happy couple progressing?
Voecks: I can honestly say, better than ever. No exaggeration. Every day is better, and we are really the envy of both gay and straight couples who say they have never seen such a happy relationship.
Waters: I’ll go along with that.
Photos: Gary Friedman / Los Angeles Times